Yes, you are allowed to have her on the title to the property so she has ownership interest but, not on the mortgage note. USDA does not allow "non-occupant co-borrowers" so being on the loan would not be acceptable if she were not in the property but, being on title for estate planning purposes should work.
I'm located in Minnesota; I have loan officers in Celebration, FL. We're very familiar with USDA. Who are "they"? I'm reviewing the USDA manual and I do not see any verbiage disallowing what you are explaining. You are referencing terminology that is in relation to "community property states" but, neither Minnesota or Florida follow these rules. I'd let one of my loan officers take a look at it. Won't hurt...Danny Otterbacher would be a great fit for you and can be reached at dotterbacher@satorimortgage.com or 321-236-6022.
A very important thing to understand is not all Loan Officers are equal. Some are very experienced, and know exactly where to look up any odd ball loan requirements. Others are glorified application takers who say and do all sorts of dumb things. Bottom line, even if you have issues at the time of closing of putting her in title, you can add anyone at anytime to the title of a property, so don't freak out, and just do it after closing.
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